Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Here We Go Again....

I made this block over the weekend with scraps from my Lollypop project. I think the brown strip is too heavy, so I will probably chop this up and make two (or more) blocks from it. Here's the one I made last month:


Things are still changing around here concerning my father. My Mother decided (this morning) to hand over the decision making to my brother and me. So she's no longer in charge. So we will NOT be moving my Dad home this afternoon.

I had to break the news to him today, which was not easy. He was VERY disappointed. Now I'm trying to get the nursing home to move him to a floor that is not locked down. As of now, he's surrounded by people who are much worse off than he is. It's very sad, and the other patients are not able to talk with him, so he cannot make friends.

The nursing home gave him a dementia assessment test this morning to see if he could be moved. Though he passed the same test with flying colors a couple of weeks ago, he failed it today. So now they refuse to move him.

What to do now? Not sure. I do know that he's not coming home, because that would only make things worse. And, no, my Mother is not open to going to live there with him. My brother is a doctor in another state. I think at this point I'll let him get involved to see if he can convince them (from a doctor's viewpoint) that he would do better with a different level of care.

I'm trying to take it one step at a time and not rush into anything (like my Mom did).

5 comments:

Jodi said...

Praying for your family, Julia ~

Victoria @ BUMBLE BEANS said...

very very hard choices... hang in there my friend.

I like your scrappy blocks!

Z Any Mouse said...

Thank you for sharing your struggles with your ailing father. I just discovered your blog a few days ago, and have read pretty far into your back posts. I am at the beginning of dealing with a mentally ill, possiby delusional mother, and reading about your situation has truly helped me. I am an avid quilter, and as I'm sure you know, it is great therapy, especially in times of stress. Like NOW. I wish you the best for you and your family.

Lynn said...

I love your fabrics! I have many of them in my stash/collection/resource center.

Thinking of you - hang in there!

Susan Ramey Cleveland said...

So sorry for all this, Judy. My sisters and I went through much the same with my mom. I'm keeping your family in my prayers.